I Have News For You!

I am sure that on a few occasions when you took your son to his martial art class or hoisted your daughter onto a horse ready for her riding lesson, that the thought crossed your mind that you are having more fun and are enjoying this more than they are. Come on, just admit it.

It is NOT wrong to offer your kids a taste of the things you once so much desired when you were ’little’. Well, of course that is IF they want to do those things.

BUT, it could be that you have a big problem on your hands if your wishes, wants and dreams overpower those of your children. Children have to be able to develop their own interests. They have to grow into their own people.

Children aim to please you as a parent, and once they know that an activity they are involved in makes your day, they would most likely continue with it, as they think it makes you happy. But once they grow older they won’t appreciate having ‘missed’ their own childhood to make up for yours, so in the long-run, they may begin to even resent you for it.

We are all doing it!… and be aware, that if you are, you may be trying to live what you feel you missed out on through your children. Living through others comes from a feeling that you are unable to achieve what you want and living through others is only masking the feeling. I have good news for you! There is still time for YOU to achieve your wishes… desires… your dreams.

What is stopping you? The only thing in favour of truly living is to drop feeling guilty, as guilty feelings are holding you back. Let go of your doubt and your fears. Release the negativity and the “what if’s”. Stop telling yourself that you can’t as it is sabotaging your efforts at living the life that YOU want. It is time to tell yourself that YOU CAN!